8 Ways Emotionally Intelligent People Deal With Toxic People
Toxic people poison those around them, and gain satisfaction
from creating disorganization and a stressful atmosphere.
Contributor, Inc.com@DrewAHendricks
Life is stressful enough for most of us. Allowing a toxic individual to ravage your immediate
environment can cause havoc in your mental well-being, which can lead to
physical challenges.
A bad state of mind not only affects your physical well-being
but makes it difficult for you to respond calmly under pressure. Ninety percent
of top performers are skilled atmanaging their emotions,
so your ability to perform effectively can be affected if you do not adopt
strategies that will allow you to deal with toxic people.
1. Successful People Establish
Boundaries
There is a fine line between being friendly and allowing
somebody to lead you down a path that jeopardizes your ability to remain effective.
Successful people understand this and do not allow the toxic among them to take
charge, but rather choose to set effective boundaries.
2. No One Limits Their Joy
How
much do the words of those around you affect your state of mind? Successful
people have mastered the ability to ensure that the negative remarks of others
do not affect their strong sense of accomplishment. Toxic people like to break
you down with rude, hurtful comments, and gain satisfaction from watching you
fall apart. Learn to react less to the opinions of others, especially those you
know do not have your well-being at heart.
3. They Have Mastered the Art
of Rising Above
I learned this from John Rampton from Due when he was
on stage at TC Disrupt. “By mastering the act of rising above, successful
people are able to remain rational and calm in the presence of the irrational
and chaotic. They master rising above the rest, no matter what the
circumstance,” Rampton said.
4. They Are Solution Focused
Do you spend more time focused on the negative person and how
they affect your life than on achieving your goals?
If so, then you have a problem. Instead of focusing on the negative, focus on
your goals.
5. They Understand the
Importance of Support
Reach
out to your mentors, chances are, they have experienced what you are going
through. There is a good chance that co-workers, team members, even family and
friends have useful tips to help you get by. The emotionally intelligent
understand how to tap into their resources to get through the challenges of
working with toxic people.
6. They Are Aware
Self-awareness
is important, because it involves knowing what it takes to push your buttons in
order to prevent it from happening. Lack of emotional control is a great way to
empower the toxic people in your life.
7. Forget-Me-Nots
Being
forgiving comes with being emotionally intelligent. It allows you to remain
unburdened by the mistakes of others and to have peace of mind. But being
forgiving does not mean forgetting whom you can and cannot trust. It just means
you stop wasting mental energy on those you cannot trust.
8. They Store Their Energy for
Better Opportunities
As
I have mentioned several times, the toxic thrive on chaos, and will do anything
to have the ability to take you down to their level. Learning to understand
your limits will help you to stay away from dangerous situations. Choose your
battles wisely, and conserve your energy for bigger and better things.
Final Thoughts
Those
we look up to as being the "bigger person" or as being able to
conduct themselves in the most challenging of situations do not have a magic
solution in their back pockets, but they have worked hard to become emotionally
intelligent people. What are some of the challenges you have experienced with
toxic people?
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